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November 17, 2024

Understanding Baby Sleep Cues for Better Sleep

As parents, few things are as precious as the sight of our little ones drifting off into a peaceful slumber. Yet, the journey to achieving those moments can often be filled with uncertainty and frustration, especially when it comes to understanding your baby’s sleep patterns. However, within their subtle cues lies the insight that can transform the way we approach both naps and bedtimes.

The Language of Sleep:

Babies have their own unique language when it comes to letting you know it’s time for sleep. These cues can range from subtle to unmistakable, and learning to interpret them will help to develop healthy sleep habits.

Common baby sleep cues:

Eye Rubbing: As fatigue sets in, babies often rub their eyes as a way to soothe themselves and prepare for sleep.
Yawning: A classic sign of drowsiness, frequent yawning signals that bedtime is approaching.
Irritability and fussiness: pulling at ears, and clenching fists can indicate that your baby is tired and in need of rest.
Becoming quiet and still: A decrease in movement or engagement with surroundings suggests that your baby is winding down and getting ready for sleep.
Ignoring interaction and losing interest in toys and people can suggest your baby is feeling tired.
A Glazed Expression: Staring into space or glazed-over look in your baby’s eyes can indicate fatigue and the onset of sleepiness.

Why do sleep cues matter?

Recognising and responding to your baby’s sleep cues is not just about ensuring a smoother bedtime routine; it’s also about meeting your baby’s need for rest and comfort.
Tuning into your baby’s cues will help you establish a sleeping pattern for your baby that aligns with their unique natural rhythms, promoting better sleep quality and duration.
Responding to your baby’s sleep cues also helps to prevent them from becoming overtired and fractious.
A well-rested baby can engage with the world around them, supporting healthy growth and development.
If you can respond to your baby’s early sleep cue signals, they will be more relaxed and find it easier to fall asleep.

To understand your baby’s sleep cues, here are some tips:

Observe your baby’s behaviour: Try looking for subtle changes in your baby’s behaviour and mood throughout the day. Over time you may start to see patterns and consistent cues that signal tiredness or drowsiness.
Learn your baby’s unique language: Every baby has their own specific cues for sleep, so try to find some time to understand and interpret your baby’s signals such as eye rubbing, yawning, becoming quiet and still, or a glazed expression.
Take note of timing: Try keeping track of the times when your baby typically shows signs of tiredness. This can help you anticipate their sleep needs and establish a routine around their natural rhythms.
Understanding your baby’s sleep cues can take time: Be kind to yourself as you observe and learn to recognise your baby’s signals for sleep. It’s a journey, and with time you and your baby will find a rhythm that works.

Understanding and responding to your baby’s sleep cues can transform sleep times into a serene, bonding experience. By recognising their signals you can create a routine that matches their natural rhythms. This journey requires patience and observation, but it will help you establish regular sleep patterns. Be kind to yourself, and with time, you and your baby will find a rhythm that ensures more peaceful nights and well-rested days. Written by Mandy Gurney RGN.RM.DipHV Founder of Millpond Children’s Sleep ClinicHere are some helpful suggestions for understanding your baby’s sleep cues:

April 8, 2024

Helping My Baby Sleep Before My Return to Work

Welcome back to the third instalment of our blog series dedicated to helping parents navigate the challenging terrain of returning to work while grappling with a baby who struggles to sleep. As we look deeper into this topic, we explore effective strategies aimed at assisting you in establishing healthy sleep patterns for your baby aged 6 months or older before your return to work.

As the end of parental leave approaches, the thoughts of returning to work can bring about mixed emotions for new parents. Among the many concerns is how to ensure your baby is sleeping well before you transition back to work. Establishing healthy sleep habits is not only crucial for your baby’s well-being but also for your sanity as you juggle work responsibilities.

Top Ten Tips to Help Your Older Baby Sleep Well:

1. Start Early:

If possible, start implementing good sleep habits a month or so before you return to work. This will give you and your baby time to adjust and establish a routine. It’s important to remember that every baby is different and may take some time for your baby to adjust to new routines. Be patient and flexible, and don’t be afraid to make adjustments if something isn’t working. It may take some trial and error to find what works best for your baby.

2. Understanding why your baby is waking in the night:

It’s common for babies to wake up during the night for various reasons, including hunger, discomfort, developmental milestones, or simply seeking reassurance. Identifying why your baby is waking can help you implement targeted strategies to help them sleep more soundly.

3. Aim for a regular bedtime:

Establish a regular bedtime for your baby and aim to keep to it as much as possible. Consistency helps regulate your baby’s internal body clock, making it easier for them to fall asleep and wake up at the same time each day.

4. Create a Calm Environment:

To signal to your baby that it’s time to wind down and sleep an hour before sleep create a soothing sleep environment by dimming the lights, putting toys away, turning off screens and reducing noise levels. Then together have about 10 or 15 minutes of quiet fine motor playtime; this will help calm and quieten your little one’s busy brain and is a wonderful bonding time for you both.

5. Develop a Bedtime Ritual:

Establish a calming bedtime routine to help your baby relax before sleep. This could include activities like a quick 5-minute “Spa-like” bath, then heading straight to the bedroom to get dressed for bed, and then reading a quiet bedtime story; it’s best to avoid books with flaps and sounds at this time.

It takes commitment and consistency so it is best for both parents to decide on a simple bedtime routine that you are happy to stick to every night.
Try to make sure the routine is both relaxing and enjoyable so both you and your baby look forward to bedtime. There’s no need to take too long; your baby could lose focus and get distracted. Aim for your bedtime routine to last no longer than 45 minutes – 30 minutes is often ample.

6. Consider if your older baby has sleep on-set associations:

As babies get older, they can understand cues for sleep and start to recognise the start of their bedtime routine means it’s bedtime.
Babies often develop associations between falling asleep and certain factors, such as being rocked to sleep and while sleep associations may initially help your baby fall asleep, they can also contribute to night wakings. As your baby completes their sleep cycles during the night, they may naturally awaken and stir. At times, they may fully wake up and need your help once again to help them to get back to sleep.

Gently weaning your baby from sleep onset associations can be a gradual process that involves introducing new sleep routines to gently transition your baby away from sleep associations. For example, if your baby is used to being rocked to sleep, gradually decrease the amount of rocking each night until they can fall asleep with minimal or no rocking. Start initially with just bedtime, when your baby’s sleep drive and melatonin levels are high and will help your baby fall asleep more easily.

7. Overtiredness:

Ironically, overtiredness can also lead to more frequent night wakings. When babies become overly tired, their bodies produce stress hormones that can make it harder for them to fall asleep and stay asleep. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine and ensuring your baby gets enough daytime sleep can help prevent overtiredness and promote better sleep at night.

8. Environmental Factors:

External factors such as noise, light and temperature can also affect your baby’s sleep. Create a calm and soothing sleep environment by preparing the bedroom; with a small night light with a warm orange/amber or red colour that will not interfere with sleep. Check the room temp to ensure it’s between 18 and 20 degrees C.

9. Falling asleep

Around 15 minutes before you want your little one to drift off, end the bedtime routine by saying “goodnight.” Many parents have a special phrase they use every night, like “Time for sleep, love you, see you in the morning.” Then, give your baby a kiss and cuddle before tucking them into bed for the night.

10. Napping well helps with night sleep:

Getting regular naps during the day can help improve your baby’s nighttime sleep. Consistent nap times help regulate the internal body clock, making it easier for little ones to fall asleep and stay asleep at night. Being over-tired can increase cortisol levels which may impact the quality of your baby’s sleep, making it less restorative and more fragmented and be the cause of early rising.
However, too much sleep in the day, especially close to bedtime, may mean your baby hasn’t had time to build good levels of “sleep-drive” (adenosine) and may struggle to fall asleep at their usual bedtime.

If you would like more information on naps head over to our nap guide.

Don’t hesitate to reach out for support from family, friends, or online communities for parents. Sharing experiences and seeking advice from others who have been through similar challenges can provide valuable reassurance and practical tips for managing night wakings.

If you would like to speak to one of our sleep consultants about how you can guide your baby towards better sleep, please reach out today. We can chat with you about how we can help offer practical and gentle sleep strategies.

You find my blog on Balancing work and your baby’s nighttime waking a helpful guide.

Feel free to give us a call if you’d like to chat about your little one’s sleep! We’re here to help.

Written by Mandy Gurney RGN.RM.Dip HV.

Founder Millpond Children’s Sleep Clinic

October 5, 2022

Parents Guide to Babies Naps From 6 Months

What are the benefits of naps?

How do naps help with memory and learning?

There is now more evidence than ever to support the essential role naps play in babies’ and children’s learning and memory. Everything your baby sees, hears and experiences while they’re wake is stored in their hippocampus, a bullet-shaped structure located deep within the brain. During naps (and nighttime sleep) these memories are moved out of the hippocampus and are stored in different cortexes within the brain; this creates space for more memories to be stored. It enables babies to recall memories when needed and for them to make sense of their world by connecting old and new experiences

Naps improve nighttime sleep

We know from research that naps can help reduce cortisol levels, helping your little one fall asleep more easily and assisting with early-rising issues.

Naps improve appetite and mood

Naps also help to regulate your child’s mood, and appetite and give you some well-needed time to rest.

How do I know when my baby is tired?

Naps are not always easy to achieve and you may find yourself struggling to get your little ones off for a few hours of precious sleep time in the day.

Having an understanding of when your baby is ready for a nap will mean they won’t be over-tired when you put them down and will settle to sleep more easily.

It is usually a combination of sleep cues and timings that get the best napping results.

Some babies and children can be very subtle with their cues.

Here are some cues you might see in your baby to indicate they are ready for sleep.

Your baby or child may show just one of these or it could be a combination:

Whining or fussing.
Staring blankly into space
Frowning
Arching of back
Clenched fists
Yawning
Rubs eyes
Pulling at ears
Sucking on fingers or fist
Ignoring interaction and losing interest in toys

How do I settle my baby for a nap?

Your baby or child will be more relaxed and settle faster if you factor in 15 minutes of quiet time before you start; then settle them as you would at bedtime.

Tidy away the toys and sit looking at a book together or just having a cuddle.
Give your little one a feed in the living room.
Then to settle your child for their nap go into the room where they usually sleep, close the curtains and use blackout blinds. From about 5 months babies can become distracted by their surroundings; darkening the room will help to prevent this.
Put on a clean nappy, pop your baby into their sleeping bag, and have a little story or lullaby and a cuddle.
Then settle them to sleep as at bedtime.
If after 20 minutes your baby or child has shown no signs of settling go out for a walk instead and try again later when they show tired signs again.
We suggest having one nap a day in the cot, but some naps can be out and about.