Understanding young babies sleep

July 21, 2026

How to Get Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night: What Every Parent Needs to Know

How to get your baby to sleep through the night

If you’ve searched “how to get my baby to sleep through the night,” you’re not alone. It’s one of the most common questions parents ask, especially during those exhausting weeks and months of broken sleep.

You may be wondering:

Why does my baby keep waking?
Should they be sleeping for longer by now?
Am I doing something wrong?

The reassuring news is that night waking is a normal part of infant development. Babies are not born with mature sleep patterns, and learning to sleep for longer stretches happens gradually as they grow.

While there is no magic solution that works for every baby, understanding how sleep develops and creating healthy sleep habits can make a real difference.

What does “sleeping through the night” actually mean?

Many parents imagine that sleeping through the night means a baby sleeping peacefully for 10 to 12 hours without waking.

In reality, research studies have used different definitions. Some define “sleeping through the night” as a continuous five-hour stretch of sleep, while others use longer periods. This differs considerably from what many parents expect.

Babies naturally wake briefly between sleep cycles, just as adults do. The difference is that young babies often need help settling back to sleep.

Evidence: Henderson JM, France KG, Owens JL & Blampied NM (2010). Sleeping Through the Night: The Consolidation of Self-Regulated Sleep Across the First Year of Life. Pediatrics.

Why do babies wake during the night?

Night waking isn’t usually a sign that something is wrong. It reflects how babies are designed to sleep.

Young babies wake because they:

need feeding
have short sleep cycles
are still developing their internal body clock
spend more time in lighter stages of sleep
seek comfort and reassurance from their parents

As babies mature, their sleep gradually becomes more organised, and many begin to sleep for longer stretches.

Every baby is different

One of the biggest myths about baby sleep is that all babies should sleep through the night by a certain age.

In reality, sleep is influenced by many factors, including:

age and stage of development
feeding needs
temperament
genetics
health and wellbeing
family routines

Some babies naturally sleep for longer stretches earlier than others. Both can be completely normal.

Supporting your baby’s sleep

Although you can’t make a baby sleep before they are developmentally ready, you can create the right conditions for healthy sleep.

Simple ways to support your baby’s sleep include:

Create a calming bedtime routine

A predictable routine helps signal that bedtime is approaching.

Encourage day and night differences

Natural daylight, play and interaction during the day, alongside a calm, dimly lit environment at night, help babies develop their body clock.

Make sure your baby isn’t overtired

Appropriate daytime naps often lead to better night-time sleep.

Respond consistently

Babies thrive on loving, predictable responses that help them feel secure while gradually developing their own settling skills.

Remember: young babies are designed to wake

Many parents worry that frequent waking means they have created a “bad habit.”

In fact, young babies have immature sleep and arousal systems. Waking during the night is a normal part of early development and helps ensure their needs for feeding, comfort and safety are met.

Following safer sleep guidance—including placing your baby on their back to sleep, using a firm, flat sleep surface and sharing a room (but not a bed) for the first six months—remains one of the most important ways to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).

When should you seek help?

While night waking is normal, there are times when extra support can help. If your baby’s sleep is leaving your family exhausted, affecting your wellbeing or becoming increasingly difficult to manage, it may be helpful to seek professional advice.

At Millpond Children’s Sleep Clinic, our team of qualified health professionals takes a holistic approach to children’s sleep. We look beyond the waking itself, considering your baby’s development, health, temperament and family circumstances to create gentle, personalised sleep plans that work for your family.

Looking for more support?

You may also find these articles helpful:

Why Does My Baby Wake So Much at Night? (coming soon)
When Will My Baby Sleep Through the Night? (coming soon)
How to Help Your Baby Sleep Longer at Night (coming soon)
Understanding the 4-Month Sleep Regression (coming soon)

Further reading:

• American Academy of Pediatrics – Sleeping Through the Night: The Consolidation of Self-Regulated Sleep Across the First Year of Life

• NHS – Your Baby’s Sleep Patterns

• The Lullaby Trust – Safer Sleep for Babies

May 3, 2026

Understanding your newborn baby’s sleep (0–4 months)

Bringing home a newborn is an exciting and emotional time, but many parents are surprised by just how unpredictable their baby’s sleep can feel. Short naps, frequent waking and broken nights are often very different from the sleep patterns parents imagined.

Understanding what typical newborn sleep looks like can help you feel more confident and reassured during these early months.

Newborn sleep is very different from older babies’, children’s, and adults’ sleep and is often far more unpredictable than parents expect.

In the first months of life, babies do not yet have a fully developed body clock. Instead, their sleep is driven mainly by feeding needs and short biological sleep cycles rather than a clear day–night rhythm.

This is normal development and not something that needs to be fixed.

As your baby grows, sleep gradually becomes more organised, with longer night-time stretches and more predictable patterns emerging from 3–4 months old.

Why newborn sleep feels so unpredictable

Our sleep is guided by an internal 24-hour body clock, known as the circadian rhythm. This helps regulate when we sleep, wake, and eat, using light and darkness as cues.

Before birth, your baby lives in a dark environment where there is no day or night cue. As a result, this rhythm is not yet fully developed at birth.

Instead, your newborn is guided by:

the need to feed
short sleep cycles
early brain development

This is why sleep often feels irregular and fragmented in the early weeks.

During pregnancy, your movement and hormones (including melatonin passed through the placenta) help regulate your baby’s sleep.

After birth, your baby must begin producing their own hormones and developing their own sleep rhythm.

What typical newborn sleep looks like

Newborn babies usually sleep between 14 and 17 hours in 24 hours, although there is considerable individual variation. Some babies sleep more, while others sleep less.

This sleep is split into many short periods rather than one long stretch. Sleep is usually divided fairly evenly between day and night in the early weeks.

Because your baby’s tummy is very small, they need to feed frequently, which naturally means they sleep for short periods at any one time.

Most young babies can only be awake for short periods, around 45–60 minutes, before they need to sleep again.

Baby sleep cycles

In the early months:

Daytime sleep cycles are around 30 minutes
Night-time sleep cycles are around 60 minutes

Babies’ shorter sleep cycles and lighter sleep patterns are thought to support frequent waking and responsiveness during a period when they are dependent on adults for feeding, comfort and regulation.

Because newborn babies are still developing their ability to regulate important functions such as breathing and temperature, following safer sleep guidance is essential. Placing babies on their back to sleep, using a clear, flat sleep surface and sharing a room (but not a bed) for the first six months are key recommendations to reduce the risk of SIDS.

What kind of sleep does your young baby have?

Young babies do not cycle through sleep in the same way adults do.

Instead, they experience two main types of sleep:

Active sleep (REM sleep)
Quiet sleep (non-REM sleep)

Newborns spend a large proportion of time in active (REM) sleep, which is thought to be important for brain development and the formation of neural pathways.

During active sleep, you may notice your baby:

moving or twitching
making small facial movements
rapid eye movements under closed eyelids
changes in breathing

At times, this can look like your baby is awake, but they are often still asleep and may naturally settle back into a deeper sleep stage.

How sleep changes from 2 to 4 months

By around 8–10 weeks, many babies begin to show clearer signs of day and night separation. While sleep still varies, parents often notice longer nighttime stretches emerging.

By 3 months, sleep patterns typically become more organised:

More sleep is taken at night than during the day
Night sleep begins to consolidate into longer blocks
Daytime naps become more structured

At this stage, many babies begin producing their own melatonin, which supports more predictable sleep–wake rhythms.

By around 3–4 months, sleep cycles also begin to mature, with:

night cycles extending to around 90 minutes
daytime cycles extending to around 45 minutes
longer periods of sleep before waking

This is a natural developmental shift, not a behavioural change.

A final note for parents

In the early months, unpredictable sleep is expected and developmentally normal.

If your baby is waking frequently, needing lots of comfort, or sleeping in short stretches, this is usually part of healthy development.

Sleep patterns will naturally evolve as your baby’s brain and body mature.

November 17, 2024

Understanding Baby Sleep Cues for Better Sleep

As parents, few things are as precious as the sight of our little ones drifting off into a peaceful slumber. Yet, the journey to achieving those moments can often be filled with uncertainty and frustration, especially when it comes to understanding your baby’s sleep patterns. However, within their subtle cues lies the insight that can transform the way we approach both naps and bedtimes.

The Language of Sleep:

Babies have their own unique language when it comes to letting you know it’s time for sleep. These cues can range from subtle to unmistakable, and learning to interpret them will help to develop healthy sleep habits.

Common baby sleep cues:

Eye Rubbing: As fatigue sets in, babies often rub their eyes as a way to soothe themselves and prepare for sleep.
Yawning: A classic sign of drowsiness, frequent yawning signals that bedtime is approaching.
Irritability and fussiness: pulling at ears, and clenching fists can indicate that your baby is tired and in need of rest.
Becoming quiet and still: A decrease in movement or engagement with surroundings suggests that your baby is winding down and getting ready for sleep.
Ignoring interaction and losing interest in toys and people can suggest your baby is feeling tired.
A Glazed Expression: Staring into space or glazed-over look in your baby’s eyes can indicate fatigue and the onset of sleepiness.

Why do sleep cues matter?

Recognising and responding to your baby’s sleep cues is not just about ensuring a smoother bedtime routine; it’s also about meeting your baby’s need for rest and comfort.
Tuning into your baby’s cues will help you establish a sleeping pattern for your baby that aligns with their unique natural rhythms, promoting better sleep quality and duration.
Responding to your baby’s sleep cues also helps to prevent them from becoming overtired and fractious.
A well-rested baby can engage with the world around them, supporting healthy growth and development.
If you can respond to your baby’s early sleep cue signals, they will be more relaxed and find it easier to fall asleep.

To understand your baby’s sleep cues, here are some tips:

Observe your baby’s behaviour: Try looking for subtle changes in your baby’s behaviour and mood throughout the day. Over time you may start to see patterns and consistent cues that signal tiredness or drowsiness.
Learn your baby’s unique language: Every baby has their own specific cues for sleep, so try to find some time to understand and interpret your baby’s signals such as eye rubbing, yawning, becoming quiet and still, or a glazed expression.
Take note of timing: Try keeping track of the times when your baby typically shows signs of tiredness. This can help you anticipate their sleep needs and establish a routine around their natural rhythms.
Understanding your baby’s sleep cues can take time: Be kind to yourself as you observe and learn to recognise your baby’s signals for sleep. It’s a journey, and with time you and your baby will find a rhythm that works.

Understanding and responding to your baby’s sleep cues can transform sleep times into a serene, bonding experience. By recognising their signals you can create a routine that matches their natural rhythms. This journey requires patience and observation, but it will help you establish regular sleep patterns. Be kind to yourself, and with time, you and your baby will find a rhythm that ensures more peaceful nights and well-rested days. Written by Mandy Gurney RGN.RM.DipHV Founder of Millpond Children’s Sleep ClinicHere are some helpful suggestions for understanding your baby’s sleep cues:

August 1, 2024

Discover Why Your Baby’s Wide Awake At Night

Why Your Baby Stays Awake for Long Periods at Night: Causes and Solutions

As a parent, you may be wondering why your baby is awake for long periods during the night. While every baby is unique, several common factors might contribute to their extended wakefulness. Understanding these factors can help you better manage your baby’s sleep patterns and ensure that both you and your little one get the rest you need.

Developmental Milestones:

As babies grow, they often reach developmental milestones that can temporarily disrupt their sleep. Learning new skills like sitting, crawling, or standing can cause them to wake up and want to practice these new abilities.

Sleep Onset Associations:

When a baby is used to specific conditions or methods to fall asleep, such as being rocked or held, they may need the same conditions to fall back asleep when they wake at the end of a sleep cycle. Without these familiar sleep associations, they might wake up fully and need assistance to return to sleep. As morning approaches, the reduced levels of sleep hormones like melatonin and adenosine make it harder for babies to fall back asleep, potentially keeping them awake for extended periods, sometimes even hours.

Hunger or Thirst:

Babies, especially younger ones, might wake up because they are hungry or thirsty. Nighttime feedings are common in infants under a year, but hunger can still occasionally wake older babies and toddlers too.

Overtired and Awake:

An overtired baby often struggles to settle down for sleep. They might become dysregulated, fussy, irritable, and harder to soothe. This restlessness can prolong the time it takes for them to fall asleep initially and may lead to more frequent awakenings throughout the night.

Discomfort or Illness:

Discomfort from teething, nappy rash, illness, or other physical discomforts can keep a baby awake for extended periods. Conditions like ear infections, colds, or reflux can disrupt their sleep.

Daytime Sleep Patterns:

Having too much daytime sleep can affect nighttime sleep. All babies have different sleep needs; the key is to get the right balance for your baby between daytime naps and nighttime sleep. If your baby is awake for long periods in the night and is happily awake, wanting to play, they may be having too much sleep in the day.

Nighttime -how much sleep should my baby have at night:

Everyone has different sleep needs, and some of us are genetically determined to need less sleep than others. Understanding your baby’s unique sleep needs can help address and reduce those long periods of wakefulness during the night.

Hoping that your baby or young child will sleep for 12 hours overnight is usually unrealistic; the average overnight sleep needs for this age group are 10 to 11 hours, with or without a feed.

My baby is content happily awake in the night and doesn’t seem tired:

If your baby is awake and content and happily “chatting” or playing, they may be spending too long in bed and as a consequence have developed a “split night,”. This is called low sleep efficiency.

Sleep efficiency measures how much time is spent asleep compared to the total time in bed.

High sleep efficiency means most of the time in bed is spent sleeping, which indicates good sleep quality.
Low sleep efficiency suggests frequent awakenings or difficulty staying asleep.

To calculate sleep efficiency, compare the total time your baby is in bed to the time they are asleep. For example, if your baby is in bed for 12 hours but only sleeps for 10, they have low sleep efficiency.

To improve sleep efficiency and reduce nighttime wakefulness, adjust your baby’s schedule so that the time they spend in bed matches their actual sleep needs, such as 10 hours.

To help manage and reduce extended wakefulness at night:

Establish a consistent bedtime routine: A predictable sequence of calming activities can signal to your baby that it’s time to sleep.
Have a regular wake time in the morning for your baby.
Consider how much sleep is appropriate for your baby overnight.
Monitor and adjust daytime sleep: Ensure your baby has an appropriate balance of naps during the day to avoid too much daytime sleep impacting their night.
Create a conducive sleep environment: Ensure your baby’s room is dark, quiet, and at a comfortable temperature.
Encourage self-soothing: Gradually ease your baby towards settling to sleep without help from you at bedtime.
Check for discomfort or illness: Address any physical issues that might be causing discomfort and disrupting sleep. You may need to discuss this with your health professional.

If the persistent sleep issues continue, we’d love to be able to offer you some guidance. Please get in touch and we’ll discuss how we can help.

Written by Mandy Gurney RGN.RM.DipHV.

April 9, 2024

Creating a Bedtime Routine for Your Baby

One of the most effective ways to help your baby develop good sleep habits and sleep well is to establish a consistent nightly bedtime routine.

A bedtime routine eases your baby’s body and brain through the transition from the fun and excitement of daytime activities into the preparation for a restful night’s sleep. Research shows a bedtime routine is the foundation of healthy sleep patterns, including earlier bedtimes, reduced time to fall asleep, longer sleep duration, and fewer night wakings.

Having a regular bedtime routine can also help with the dreaded sleep regressions. These can happen at any point throughout your baby’s first year, and beyond, and are common occurrences. By providing a sense of comfort and predictability, a bedtime routine can help guide babies smoothly through these phases.

The benefits of a bedtime routine are long-lasting and wide-ranging:

Evidence has shown the benefits are wide-ranging not only in the early months and years but are long-lasting right through into childhood and beyond! Specifically, where families of young infants established bedtime routines as early as 3 months of age, these routines are associated with important sleep outcomes.
Another point to note is researchers have found a dose-dependent relationship between the frequency of bedtime routines in infancy and sleep outcomes for preschool-age children. They found the more consistent and regular the routine, the better the outcomes.
Beyond its impact on sleep, a bedtime routine contributes to broader developmental and well-being outcomes in early childhood such as language and literacy development.
A bedtime routine embodies the characteristics of nurturing care and is a wonderful way for you to bond with your baby at the end of a long day. It can help improve mood, stress levels, a child’s emotional and behavioural regulation, parent-child attachment, and family functioning, among other outcomes.

There’s no rush to get your newborn into a bedtime routine

You should not feel under pressure to start a bedtime routine as soon as you get home from the hospital with your newborn baby. You, your partner and your baby need time to recover from the delivery, time to get to know each other and take your own time to establish your baby’s feeding patterns.
The first few weeks with your newborn will go by in a blur of feeding, changing nappies and sleeping. And if your baby always falls asleep in your arms while feeding, that’s fine, that’s what babies do and you are not going to create “bad habits”. You should do what works best for you and your baby so you all get the rest, sleep and nutrition you need.
As you gain confidence and get to know your baby’s habits and understand their tired cues more, you may decide now is the time to consider introducing a simple bedtime routine.

A simple bedtime routine for your young baby

Start with something very short and simple. Some quiet cuddle time in dim light; followed by a pre-bath feed. This has the advantage that your baby won’t be both tired and hungry while you’re getting them ready for bed. It also has the added advantage of giving valuable extra time for any gas to disperse, so your baby is more comfortable when you settle them down.; particularly beneficial for babies who experience excessive gas or digestive issues like reflux.
Offering an earlier feed also reduces the likelihood of your baby falling asleep while feeding right before bedtime, allowing you to put them down slightly awake.

Then take them for a relaxing warm bath or a top and tail followed by a calming massage. Research has shown newborns who had a nightly massage as the last step of their bedtime routine, after one month reduced bedtime resistance, shortened the time it took for babies to fall asleep and mothers reported fewer night wakings and longer periods of night-time sleep.
Next, dress your baby into their night clothes and sleeping bag and have a cuddly top-up feed. You may wish to finish the routine by reading a little book or singing your baby’s favourite trigger lullaby, finally soothing them to sleep with gentle rocking, patting and comforting words.

Putting your baby down sleepy but awake

You might have heard that it’s ideal to place your baby in their crib when they’re drowsy but still awake, allowing them to learn to settle themselves to sleep. However, achieving this can be quite challenging in practice. If you find an opportunity to try it, go ahead, but remember, there’s no pressure to make it happen perfectly every time.
Once your baby is relaxed and drowsy on their mattress you could try soothing them to sleep with gentle patting and shushing. If this doesn’t work, don’t worry, simply try again during the next opportunity. Over time your baby will gradually get used to falling asleep in their crib or cot.